November 11, 2008

Concerts: A Great Religious Event to Host

Are you a church leader or a member in your church group who is regularly involved in the planning of community events? If you are, has your church ever held a public concert, either as a free community event or as a fundraiser? If this is an approach that you have yet to take, you may want to consider doing so, as there are a number of benefits to reaching out to your community by way of music.

Before examining a few of the many benefits of hosting a community concert, either as a free event or as a fundraiser, it is important to examine the options that you have. As you likely already know concerts and music events come in a number of different sizes, shapes, and styles. This is something that you may want to use to your advantage.

When planning a concert for your community, either as a free event or as a fundraiser, it is advised that you place a focus on children. It is always said that children are our future and that couldn’t be more true. If you want your church congregation to continue on, even after you have passed, you will want to place a focus on children. That is why it may be a good idea to host a concert that targets children and their parents. The songs sung should have a kids theme to them. In addition to a kids concert, you may also want to turn the event into a fun filled day. This can easily be done with games, foods, and drinks.

As important as it is to place a focus on the children in or around your community, you will also want to make sure that you place a focus on adults as well. That is why it is advised that you consider hosting concerts that may be ideal for adults and possibly even adults only. These types of concerts are ones that you may want to schedule a little bit later in the evening. You may end up finding that many of your attendees use your religious concert as a way to get out of the home or even as a date night.

As for the benefits of hosting a religious concert, either as a free event or as a fundraiser, you will find that there are an unlimited number of benefits to doing so. One of those benefits is the interest that may be generated in your church and the new members that may join. What you need to remember is that many individuals would like to attend church, but many are afraid to take the first step. A community concert, especially if you have church officials on hand, may be the perfect opportunity for hopeful church goers to express interest in your church group, as well as ask any questions that they may have.

Another one of the many benefits to using concerts as a way to insert yourself into the community and make your presence known it that it is relatively easy to do so. Depending on the size of your church, as well as how it is operated, you may have a church choir or even a church music group. If that is the case, your own members can put on the concerts that you would like to host. With that in mind, you may also want to take steps to see if you can find any locally well-known music artists who would be willing to perform a concert with you as their sponsor. As for locations, many choose to use their own facilities, but you may also want to use local parks as locations for a concert, as well as other fundraisers or free events that you may be interested in planning.

As outlined above, there are a number of benefits to using concerts as a way to reach out into your community. Those benefits include a possible increase in interest at church services, as well as the ability to raise money for a good cause, especially if you are interested in using your concert or concerts as fundraisers.

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November 3, 2008

What is Anger Management Certification

Society today has many problems; one of them is the growing issues surrounding anger management. Professionals in various departments, agencies and practices are deciding to incorporate anger management programs in the work environment. The need for anger management appears to be growing rapidly and people are taking a serious interest. The need has actually created employment since more and more professional anger management counselors are required.

In areas such as mental health, substance abuse, law enforcement, pastoral care, corrections and domestic violence, the need for certified anger management personal is increasing. Various training institutes have been set up to specifically provide anger management certification. Anyone who works with individuals experiencing angry or aggressive behavior, now have the option to receive professional training through anger management certification.

Anger management certification provides people with the necessary skills to work with different groups who suffer from issues relating to anger. The population of people with anger issues is large. From home environments to schools, from mental health institutes to prisons, there are many people who could benefit greatly from an individual with anger management certification. These certification programs provide education regarding intense anger and repercussions when a person unleashes that anger. These programs teach individuals various forms of self-discipline to be used if a situation gets out of hand. Anger management certification equips a person to work with those with anger related issues, helping them make positive changes in their lives. Teaching them techniques and strategies for anger management, these certified professionals are trained to help the affected people use these techniques and strategies to control their anger and increase their quality of life.

There are many people who are striving daily to work through their anger issues on their own. No doubt failing often, falling back into regular outbursts. Anger is an emotion which is difficult to work on without the right information and tools. Working through anger-related issues requires hard work, anger management skills, encouragement and support. Unfortunately without these essentials, dealing with anger problems is extremely challenging.

If seeking a professional with anger management certification, a doctor or medical personal ought to be able to provide contact information or perhaps even set up an appointment. If an individual works at a business which offers anger management support, they should take advantage of it. Many schools now have counselors with anger management certification who are available to help students with individual anger problems or instruct them, regarding issues at home. There are online anger counselors who are available to offer advice and instruct people regarding anger management.

Anger management certification is likely needed to be employed at many places which deal with individuals who experience fits of anger and aggression. If this area of work is something a person might be interested in, it would be a wise plan to enroll at a school which offers anger management certification. This anger management training is not only helpful to others but it will also teach an individual protection for themselves, in case they have a confrontation with an angry person.

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October 29, 2008

The Birth of my Perspective on Life

  Hi, I’m Steve :)

Here is just a little bit about where I have been and how my perspective has evolved over 65 + years on this amazing Planet, with its amazing people. I have been excited to be here most of my life.

I have devoted my life to understanding Human Behavior in all its variations. I grew up poor and uneducated, but definitely inspired to fullfill my family’s desire that I go to college and become someone who helped and served others. I came from a religious family that believed in service to others.

My journey started out very well. I talked very early and was a tremendous success in Pre-School, Kindergarden, and 1st Grade. It all fell apart in 2nd Grade. I was absolutely not equipped for Dick and Jane Readers, Math Fact and Spelling Tests, and my worst experience; standing up at the Blackboard and attempting to regurgitate memorized data that the teacher recited. I Flunked 2nd Grade!

It all went down hill from there. I will be brief; I became enraged at how I was treated, how I was told to Just Try Harder, how I was told my behavior Made No Sense, but mostly how I must Change to fit the Society I was In! The result… I violently rejected the society that was rejecting me!

At 19, I was headed in a very wrong direction to achieve what my family had instilled in me earlier. I ended up in jail and the jailer, who became my mentor until he died, offered me an opportunity I was moved to accept.

John, my mentor, told me he would get rid of my juvenile and adult criminal records If I would try to go to College! John told me he would pick all my professors and let them know that I did not have the type of Intelligence required to take tests or write papers. The skill he told me I had was to link with and understand Ideas, communicate with and connect others, and synthesize information and ideas.

John only gave me two weeks to convince my professors of my abilities. He told them he was just giving me a chance to succeed and become a teacher for students like me.

He was right! College was considerably different in many ways from regular school. Professors gave me better grades than I earned on tests and papers. I did what John said and never took a class where the grade was determined, solely, by Mid Term, Final, and Term Paper. He suggested I live in the Professors Office as much as possible and convince them I understood how to Use the Subject, even though my tests and papers were Not Adequate.

If Jr. High and High School had been like College; I would have not become so detached from Society.

College was not even easy for me. John told me I would have to work Ten Times as hard to get a “C” as someone else did to get an “A”. He was right and extreme hard work by me Paid Off. It took me 5 years to get my BA Degree and my General K-8 Teaching Credential. I took me another 10 years to get a Master’s Degree in Human Behavior and Counseling. I also earned a Standard Secondary, 8-12, Teaching Credential and a K-14 Counseling Credential. John was extremely proud!

After John died, I went back to San Diego State University. SDSU was just a State College when I started in 1961. At 50, I went back and received another 200 + units of classes in Sociology, Theology, and Counseling in order to better prepare me for my future in Education, Counseling, and Ministry.

I am not sure what the future holds, but I want to be part of improving the lot of the least of these, my brothers and sisters whom I can help; Just as someone helped me.

 

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October 13, 2008

How You Can Stay Up-to-Date on the Latest Religious News and Events

Do you regularly find yourself wondering what is going on with your local churches or what is happening in the world of religion? If you do, you may be interested in taking steps to ensure that you are regularly updated and informed on the latest happenings in religious news and events. If you are looking to do so, you may be pleased to know that you have a number of different options.

If you are already the member of a church in or around your community, you may find it relatively easy to stay informed and up-to-date on religious news and happenings. For instance, many churches post information concerning important news and upcoming events in their church newsletters. Many churches mail their newsletters to members at their homes or distribute them after church services have ended. Be sure to regularly read all church newsletters that you are given.

Another one of the many ways that you can go about making sure that you are updated on some of the latest religious news and events happening, namely in or around your community, is by taking the time to speak with church officials, such as office workers or preachers. Perhaps, this is easiest if you are already a church member. If you do not currently attend church, but you would still likely to be involved in many community related church events, you can still contact your local churches. What you will want to do is ask if they have any important news to share or if they have information on upcoming events, namely ones in which the community is invited to attend.

If you are unable to speak with church officials or if you feel uncomfortable doing so, especially if you are not an active church member, you may want to use the internet to your advantage. If your church has an online website you may want to visit that online website. If you are a church member who finds that your church doesn’t even have an online website or that the one they do have is rarely updated, you may want to approach church officials, namely your pastor, with your concerns.

Even if you currently do not attend church, but you would still like to attend community events or just stay well informed, you can also use the internet. If you already know the names of your local churches, you may want to perform a standard internet search with those names. You should also be able to use online business directories as well. Online business directories should connect you to any applicable online websites, as well as give you names, addresses, and telephone numbers for local churches in your area.

Another one of the many ways that you can go about staying updated on the latest happenings in religion, particularly concerning news and events, is by keeping your eyes and your ears open at all times. You may be surprised what you can learn when you least expect it. Of course, with that in mind, it is important that you are able to distinguish the difference between accurate information and misleading information.

As outlined above, there are a number of different ways that you can go about staying up-to-date and educated on the latest happening in some of your community churches and in religions in general. As a reminder, even if you do not attend church or have a need to so in the near future, it doesn’t mean that you cannot support your local church group at fundraisers or other community events.

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October 6, 2008

Learning Healthy Anger Management Strategies

When treating or dealing with anger issues, there are many suggestions for anger management strategies. Each of them is intended to help people who are hot-tempered and frequently have fits of rage. Anger, although a healthy and normal response to upsetting situations, it can be intense to the point of violence. When a person experiences regular episodes of angry or reckless behavior, there’s a problem, one that needs to be dealt with. Anger management strategies are designed to help an individual return to a healthy, normal existence.

Taking a time-out is considered a healthy management strategy. Removing oneself from a situation or person that makes a person angry is practicing time-out. This anger management strategy might simply require a ride in the car or a walk on the beach. Playing sports or working out will help an individual to use up some of the extra energy without involving others. Some other suggestions for time-out are reading, listening to music or sitting alone in silence. Each of these activities are healthy anger management strategies.

A second example of a healthy anger management strategy is, owning up to the anger. Although the anger is usually brought on by an irritating situation or a confrontation with another individual, the anger actually belongs to the troubled person. Only the person who’s experiencing the anger issues can control their outbursts. Only the person with the anger issues can learn anger management strategies and how to deal with their feelings in a healthy way. When an individual becomes mad or upset they need to try to disclose the reasons for their anger whether it is hurt, fear, frustration sadness, confusion , jealousy or whatever seems to bring unleash the rage.

Another healthy anger management strategy is to look back on those situations that upset an individual and try to find ways to make changes. Learning the cause of the anger may help the individual to avoid those situations. Not only might the person learn to avoid these incidents but they might also choose to take what they’ve learned and attempt to deal with the situation without bursting into a frenzy.

A fourth suggestion regarding healthy management strategies is to confront the situation or person. Talk to the person or people involved, calmly of course, to try to determine the root of the problem. The angry individual might actually discover that the whole thing was a mix-up, a misunderstanding. The individual might also try asking the person or people in the situation to think about their behavior and perhaps even change it. It may be surprising what people would be willing to do to help the person who is attempting to deal with their problems with anger. Hopefully everything will work out for the best. If not there has to be room for acceptance. Sometimes a person must simply accept the situations and people they cannot change and either deal with it or walk away.

Learning healthy anger management strategies should be considered by those with anger problems. There are many books published regarding anger and anger management. There is also a wealth of information available on the Internet for those who are attempting to deal with their anger by learning healthy anger management strategies.

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September 8, 2008

What to Consider When Looking for a Church

Are you interested in attending church? If you are and if you have yet to do so in your adult years, you may be wondering how you should proceed. In all honestly, it is much easier to find a church if you already have a religion in mind. With that in mind, it is more than possible for you to find a new church, as well as whole new religion, if you are interested in doing so.

When it comes to looking for a new church congregation to join, there are a number of important factors that you will want to take into consideration. One of those factors is the location of the church in question. Many church goers enjoy attending church services at a church that is located within a reasonable distance from their home. With that mind, it is not unheard of for others to travel hours just to attend their church services. This is devotion at its best. 

In addition to location, the size of the church in question may also be a factor to take into consideration. When examining size, it is important to also examine your comfort level. When joining a new church, many individuals, couples, and families feel more comfortable joining a church that has a large attendance, as they can easily blend in. With that in mind, there are others who are joining a church group to become a part of a community, a community in which they can lean on for support. This can be easier when church groups are smaller in size. 

Another one of the many factors that you will want to take into consideration is the sermons. Many individuals mistakenly believe that attending church is solely about attending church sermons on Sundays. While this is a good percentage of what you will be spending your time doing, that is not all that church is about. You may also be involved in community projects, as well as help to organize or host fundraisers, as well as offer emotional support to other church members or even community members. That is why it is advised that you speak with church leaders or members to determine what their weekly activities usually entail.

Speaking of what attending the church of your choice may entail, you may also want to examine what is expected of you. For instance, many churches allow guests to attend their services, even long term. With that in mind, it is important to remember that many church leaders encourage their attendees to become official members of the church. If that is the case, you may want to examine what is required of you. While these requirements vary, depending on the church in question, you may find yourself needing to take weekly or nightly church classes, which are often used to educate you on the history of your religion and church.

It is also advised that you determine, ahead of time, how much money you are urged or required to donate to your church congregation. When doing so, you will find that donations tend to vary, depending on a number of factors. Yes, there are church congregations that request a specific percentage of your yearly earnings, but you will find that many others are also extremely flexible. Your financial status should not have an impact on whether or not you are able to attend church. The good news is that many churches in the United States know and understand this important fact.

The above mentioned factors are just a few of the many factors that you will want to take into consideration, should you decide to attend a new church. What you need to remember when examining potential churches is that you must make sure that you take time to make your decision. As previously stated, church memberships are intended to be lifelong commitments; therefore, you will want to make sure that you are making the right commitment.

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September 1, 2008

Anger Management in Children

Anger, a normal emotion, can transform into something painful and ugly. First thoughts of anger issues may bring about images of a couple fighting, a parent abusing a child, a teenager lashing out at a teacher or a parent. Rarely will images of angry children come to mind. Unfortunately children, at very young ages, have to deal with feelings of anger and rage. This is a truth which is often difficult to understand or manage.

Children, young children especially, aren’t normally aware of how they feel. When a child becomes upset or mad they simply show these emotions through their behavior. A good example of this might be the little boy in the supermarket who throws a tantrum because he’s upset. Many parents have had to deal with similar situations. It is unfortunate that often times these occurrences are overlooked or dismissed because they are “just children”. Anger management in children is as important, or perhaps even more important than anger management in adults.

A child requires instruction and guidance from their coming into the world to their entry into adulthood. The things they learn throughout their young lives are likely to form the person they become as an adult. For this reason anger management in children with difficulties controlling their temper is extremely important. Finding ways to teach anger management in children might present challenges.

There are programs designed specifically for children with anger management issues. Finding one that works for a particular child might require testing many methods. Not all children will respond to the same treatments for anger management in children. Because a child cannot always relate their feelings surrounding angry outburst, finding the right approach may take some time. Until the issue is resolved or at least controlled, it is imperative to continue the search.

Young children may respond well to worksheets, games and fun activities. All of these can be used effectively to teach anger management in children. Developing programs which incorporate each of these might be the best route to take. A child completing a worksheet, coloring sheet or participating in games and activities with underlying messages regarding anger management, may not even realize they are working on their problem. Making the activity fun doesn’t mean that the anger issue has to be left out. Choosing fun activities which teach healthy interaction and decision making might be good for anger management in children. Teaching them to take turns and helping them to learn that they can’t always be the best or the winner would definitely make a difference when confrontational situations arise. Little activities which instill values and positive thinking would be beneficial for anger management in children.

If a child is old enough to talk about their anger problem, encouraging them to share their feelings is important. Suggesting they talk to someone who they feel comfortable with and trust is a good idea regarding anger management in children. Asking them to write or draw about their emotions may be able to help disclose their underlying issues, whether fear, hurt or sadness. Teaching them to ask for help when they feel threatened or angry would certainly help the child with a problem. The important detail to realize when considering anger management in children are they are just “children”. Their minds are not equipped to handle big people situations and so they will require a more careful approach.

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August 11, 2008

What to Consider When Choosing a Religion

Have you recently decided that you would like to attend church? If you are an adult, you have a number of different decisions to make. If you have not attended church for some time now, you may be interested in attending a new church, other than the one that you may have attended during childhood. In fact, many adults are now beginning to choose new religions. If you are interested in doing the same, you will want to continue reading on.

When it comes to choosing a religion to follow and support, many individuals mistakenly make their decision right away. Although you are allowed to make changes in your life, you will find that the decision to follow and support a particular religion is one that is intended to follow you through until the end of time. That is why it is important that you carefully decide which religion you would like to follow. That is why it is a decision that should not be made on an impulse or on a whim.

When you reach the point in your life where you are interested in devoting yourself to a religion, whether it be now or in the future, there are a number of important factors that you will want to take into consideration. One of those factors is your beliefs. One thing that many religions are known for is their strong beliefs, many of which appear as if they are set in stone. Yes, many religions are slowly starting to evolve with time, but this is still a factor that you will want to take into consideration. Be sure to choose a religion that you can fully support and believe in. 

In addition to finding a religion that you believe you can truly stand behind and support, it is also important to find a religion that appeals to you. If you have already announced that you are looking for a new religion or a new church to attend, there is a good chance that you have already been receiving feedback or recommendations from those that you know, namely your family members. While these recommendations may be able to provide useful insight for you, it is important that you go with your own heart and your own beliefs. The last thing that you should do is attend a church just because your parents think it is the “right,” thing to do.

In keeping with focusing on what you want or believe in, as opposed with what those around you think, it is also important to not place too much focus on your community. In the United States, some individuals, couples, and families have selected their religions based on the popularity in their community. Yes, Christianity may be popular in your community and it may seem as if all of your friends, family members, or neighbors are supporters, it doesn’t mean that you have to be. Even if you must travel to the next town to attend church services, it is advised that you do so, as long as you are able to follow and support the religion that you, yourself, handpicked.

The above mentioned points are all points that you will want to take into consideration, should you decide that it is time to refocus on religion. As you likely already know, you have a lot of work and research ahead of you, as choosing a new religion can seem like an overwhelming process.

As a reminder, it is important that you choose your religion based on you and your own personal wants, needs, and beliefs. To help ensure you are making the right decision, you may want to examine multiple religions. You can easily do this by examining printed materials, which can be found in many libraries and book stores, as well as by using the internet. It may also be a good idea to schedule appointments with pastors of your local churches to see what assistance or insight they can offer you in your decision making process.

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August 4, 2008

Anger Management for Teens & Success

As a teen, it must be rather difficult to always be positive in every situation. Growing up in society today is challenging and teenagers are often compelled to be defensive. Teenagers are not usually compassionate individuals. They are constantly in competition and jealousy is a huge factor. The fight to always be number one is very common in the teenage world. It is unfortunate and sad since these years ought to be the best years of their lives. Teenage children are forced to grow up long before their time because of the daily challenges and obstacles they are faced with. Some young people can handle adversity very well while others are quick to build a defensive wall. When faced with confrontation, many teens lash out and become reckless, often to the point of violence and nowadays, death.

Developing an anger management plan for teens could be difficult since teens are quick to resist advice and not always compliant with instructions. In order for anger management for teens to be successful, a program must be designed that will reach the targeted teen without being overbearing. Convincing a teenager that they have behavioral issues which need attention may be a challenge but it is essential to make them understand the importance of making a change.

If anger is not controlled, it can control the life of the individual affected. This is unfortunate in any life including that of a teenager. Teenagers with anger issues tend to yell and scream, say hurtful things, punch walls, push other people around and even hurt themselves. It may be difficult but important to convince these teenagers that everyone can change. With effective anger management for teens, they can be a success. They can make positive changes in their lives which will ultimately make their life easier and more enjoyable. Learning to control their anger is definitely a positive change.

Anger management for teens should teach teenagers to be self-aware, to evaluate their feelings in an attempt to understand the reasons for their anger. They should also learn to practice self-control, to pause a few seconds and think about the repercussions of their reactions to situations. After thinking about their options regarding reactions, they are taught to make a choice, pick an option which will bring about effective results. After acting on their feelings, teenagers are taught through anger management for teens, to review their progress, see what the outcome of the choice was. These steps might be considered an effective lesson plan for anger management in teens. If using this plan each time they are confronted with irritating situations, eventually the teenager will be capable of dealing with confrontations much better.

Teenagers have their own minds with their likes and dislikes. Suggesting techniques like exercising, listening to music or journaling might be good anger management for teens. Success will only be achieved when the teenager is able to accept responsibility for their actions and realize they need to make changes. Using their likes as distractions may be a good tool in anger management. These may be techniques which they are willing to try when they feel angry or threatened. Helping a teenager be successful in anger management may require hours of hard work and tears, but realizing that individual is being spared from a future of recklessness and avoidable challenges is worth every second.

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July 14, 2008

Should You Allow Your Preschooler to Attend Church Preschool?

Are you the parent of a toddler? If you are, you may be in the process of deciding whether you should send your toddler to preschooler or not. Should you decide that preschool is the right option for your child, you will soon find that you have a number of different options.

When examining local preschools in your area, you may be put off, so to say, concerning the cost of them. Many preschool programs, especially those that are classified as private preschool programs, are costly. While the cost of a quality education for your preschooler is more than worth it, you may not have the money to spend. If that is the case, you may want to examine preschool programs that are operated by church congregations. One of the benefits to doing so is that most church sponsored preschool programs are more than affordable; in fact, some can be considered quite cheap.

As nice as it is to hear that many church sponsored preschool programs are affordable, many parents are concerned with sending their children to a preschool at a church. Often times, these are parents who are not actively involved in their religion or in church in general. If you are one of those parents, you may be unsure as to whether or not a church preschool is right for your child. If that is a concern of yours, you will want to continue reading on.

While it is important to remember that not all church related preschool programs are the same, you will find that many are similar in nature. This similarity often tends to include who is welcome. In the United States, you will often find that many church sponsored preschool programs are actually open to the general public. These preschool programs will likely require a fee, but, as previously mentioned, that fee is often an affordable one. For that reason, if cost is a concern of yours, you may want to start examining local church sponsored preschool programs to determine if they have any enrolment restrictions.

Another concern of many parents, when examining church related preschool programs, is the curriculum that will be taught. When examining preschool curriculum, it is once again important to remember that preschool programs vary. With that in mind, you will likely find that many of your church sponsored preschool programs are operated like most public and private preschool programs. Perhaps, the only difference is that religion may be touched on a little bit in each session. With that in mind, you will likely find that your child will walk away learning their letters, numbers, colors, ABCs, and anything else that they would likely learn at another preschool.

Before deciding to enroll your child in a preschool program, whether it be a church sponsored program or not, you will want to proceed with caution. Before signing any enrollment paper or paying any fees, it is important that you take the time to meet with all church officials, namely those handling the preschool program, as well as examine those officials in action as well. This will not only give you the opportunity to examine what your child’s day will be like, but it will also give you the opportunity to meet with preschool officials and ask about any questions or concerns that you may have. This may help to “calm,” your nerves, as well as help you make a well-informed decision.

As a reminder, most church sponsored preschool programs do not require preschool students or their families to be members of their church congregation. With that in mind, it is important to also remember that it depends on the church in question. Even if you are not actively involved in your religion or in church, you may be surprised with what you find yourself doing after seeing after what the church has done for your child. Many parents have been known to become members of the church that their preschooler attended preschool at.

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